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The Jig is Up!
I dropped my kids off with my cousin and my grandmother tonight so Dave and I could go see yet another musical at the Civic Center (The Rat Pack Live at the Sands-very fun, I'll review it Sunday). What used to be entire family gatherings at Gran D's every Friday have pretty much disintegrated into me, my husband, and my kids coming over each weekend with my mother's occasional guest-star appearances. But, when I got there tonight, my sister was there with her girls and so were my parents. Which means mom. Sigh. It started out innocently enough, but as soon as Dave walked out the door to load the kids up, I heard this:
"Somebody had better re-think that blog of hers before it comes time to buy Christmas presents and write checks in January."
If you guessed it was my mother who said it, you are right. Conversations with my mother...I.Do.Not.Like.
I'm not re-thinking the blog by the way, I guess it will be a gift-less, check-less, integrity-filled Christmas for me. Stupid integrity...always costing me money.
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I think I might actually be finding this as funny as you do. Which is pretty danged funny. I know you feel good about what you write here, because you come by it honestly and with integrity. I hope the fallout isn't too brutal. Quite a generation-specific problem to have, eh?
Oh ... poor Melessa. Is it terrible that I want to have a talk with your Mom? :)
sandra
Mother-Daughter relationships are ... complicated. I spend a lot of time wanting to have a different kind of relationship with my daughters than I have with my mom. Perhaps I'm just in a funk today, but sometimes it feels pretty hopeless.
Why is it that everytime I hear about your Mom's comments, I am always reminded of "Mommy Dearest"? Keep on writing girl because now you are the "Momma" and "If Momma Ain't Happy - Then Nobody's Happy." You make me happy.
Toni-Who knows how she found it. She hates computers, but she quoted from a recent entry, so she's definitely reading. Of course, she has no patience and there's 5 years of material to sort through here. So I wish her luck with that. I love how she waited for Dave to be out of the room before she started messing with me. (Typical) What she didn't realize was that Natalie was still there and was very mad at her MeMe on the drive home for talking to me that way. She's much more full of talk than action, though. She just wants to push my buttons.
I am wondering if she read "The Necklace" though...
Sandra-Next 4th, she's all yours. LOL!
Tracy-My entire yardstick for how I deal with my daughters is composed of milestones my mom and I never achieves. So far, so good...Usually.
Wendles-I remember watching Mommie Dearest as a kid and thinking 'What's the big deal? My mom does some of that.' Of course, I know now that it isn't normal. I won't quit blogging and if it means she gets me nothing for Christmas...so be it. The fact that I can be me and not her mirror (like she wanted) is gift enough.
Melessa, you're mom is just jealous because this blog is yours and has she has no control over it. Like you said, you are who you are and you have a little community all your own with this blog. I'm glad to be a part of it, even if I've only been lurking lately!
Sandra,
Good luck. It will be like talking to a crazy brick wall. She'll eventually make some wacky nonsensical comment, start giggling, and wander off like she's the Queen of Sheba, all superior and knowing.
Sorry if this offends you Melessa, but I think I can hear you laughing at the description. lol
To be fair, if you talk to my mother, she'll stare at you with her mouth open like you are crapping gold when you talk and be all amazed and astounded even though it's something you've told her 5 times already. She's so cute and annoying. lol
Come to think of it, I may have already seen her do that, Chris. :) Melessa, I was thinking about the Necklace ... which you should still polish up and submit, ahem, IMNSHO. I'm glad that even from the midst of it you see it's all about the buttons (pushers get mad when they aren't big and bright and easy to see -- a lesson I have to learn repeatedly with Sky, the biggest button-pusher of all. OK, I really didn't mean to compare your Mom to a six-year-old!). With my mom -- for that matter the rest of my family -- when I started acting differently, I got treated differently, even by people long since set in their ways. That wasn't my goal, but it was nice to discover as a byproduct. Who knows, maybe you'll see that come to pass in the years to come. And if it doesn't, integrity is mighty strong company. You win either way.
sandra
Jen-Almost everything mom does is a reaction to one of us doing something that she can't control. It's annoying. I keep waiting for her to grow up and be my mom and it keeps not happening.
Chris-I LOVE that you had to call me on my cell and read this to me before I could even read it today. I am also ROTFL at this a second time.
Sandra-I think you've definitely seen mom in that mode before now. It's one thing for Sky to be 6 and want to push buttons, it's quite another for mom to do it.
It will be like talking to a crazy brick wall. She'll eventually make some wacky nonsensical comment, start giggling, and wander off like she's the Queen of Sheba, all superior and knowing.
Ok, so I know we've compared moms and they are eerily similar, but this about floored me that a non-family member can nail YOUR mom this way and it in turn nails MY mom to a T.
I know you didn't ever want it to come to this, but I also know what a huge relief it is to have others understand just how whacked it all is. I'm sorry that that 'other' has to be Natalie. As whacky and insane as they are, I somehow think it's better for the kids to think they are still good for something. Sadly after 3 months of living together, my kids have gotten a glimpse of the woman behind the curtain.
I'll bet our moms would be great friends LOL Does your's play bridge?
Jennifer S
Just going to say, when my Mom found my blog...well...let's just say your Mother's reaction was very familiar.
What on earth could be offensive about your blog?
I know. My mom wouldn't approve either, but I've been extremely personal and revealed a lot more than she'd like. Perhaps its the same for you and your mom.
This is one of the reasons why I've decided to go completely anonymous at my new place. Too many inlaws and friends knew about the old place
Jen S-That particular comment was made by someone who might as well be family, unfortunately for her. Chris has been around me (and my crazy mom) since we were in jr. high. But I loved her description, didn't you?
Mom doesn't play Bridge yet, but Aunt M does so it's only a matter of time before she has to start.
Kelly-It was kind of funny to me or would be if I didn't know she was going to pick at this every time I see her from now through New Year's. Oh well...it's already done so what can I do now?
Amalita-Mom isn't nice and several posts address this very frankly. I'm not sure what she has or hasn't seen, but it's all true and, funny enough, even she never said it wasn't. She just wants me to re-write. Ain't gonna happen...
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